Now that she’s a year old when are you going to wean her?
It’s so aggravating when people ask when she is going to be weaned. I don’t know. That’s her decision to make. It isn’t mine, or her dada’s, and the very last one who gets an input is you. Yes, you, stranger, friend, parent, family member. Extended breastfeeding just feels right for us, so let me make this clear. You absolutely do not get a say on when my child will wean.
When you ask because you are genuinely interested perhaps you should express your interest in a way that cannot be misconstrued as judgment. I.E. “I have little knowledge of breastfeeding, may I ask when you plan on weaning?”. I’ll happily explain why I make no plans to stop.
When you ask because you can’t wait for her to spend the night at your house you are being selfish and cruel. I mean seriously, how dare you put your desires before my daughter’s emotional and physical health. Your selfishness makes me question your ability to judge whats best for her and consequently makes me want to never allow you to keep her over night. Ever.
When you ask because you think it’s inappropriate and you want us to stop, I need you to do us both a favor and just look the other way. I go out into the world every day and see things I don’t like. I bet you do, too. Do you ask them to stop? Or do you look the other way? This is no different.
We are told as mothers to trust our instincts, yet we’re told when to nurse, where to nurse, how long to nurse for. We’re constantly bombarded with studies and information and recommendations. We’re especially susceptible to receiving “advice” from well meaning friends and family. What if we just supported each other in our own unique journey? No two people are the same. No two journeys are either. Every single child has a different need that only the mother can feel. Trust the connection between mother and child. Trust your breastfeeding Momma family member or friend to know what’s best for her little one. The same way that you know whats best for yours.
I love Crunchy Momma Decals! I also love that she spells Momma the southern way. Haha! I found Kelli’s wonderful crunchy merch at MommyCon Orlando this year and could have seriously bought one of everything. She obviously won me over with the “just because I’m 1 doesn’t mean I’m done” shirt, but she has a full line of extended breastfeeding shirts going all the way up to her latest design, “Just because I’m 4, doesn’t mean there’s no more”.
She’s offering you the ability to help normalize extended breastfeeding (hopefully in the future it will be just called breastfeeding!) by adding this adorable “just because I’m one doesn’t mean I’m done” shirt to your little one’s wardrobe! The winner of this giveaway can choose to receive their shirt in either pink or aqua. Thank you, Kelli!
Congrats to Meghan R. for winning the awesome shirt!