I strongly dislike the mommy wars.
August is cesarean awareness month. Now is when we see a huge debate springing up about what type of birth is better. I don’t believe that it’s fair that we as women constantly put each other down. It’s worse when we assume we are being put down when we aren’t. When I say that Cesarean Mommas are warriors that is in no way saying that any other mom isn’t! I actually got ripped apart for this by a woman who had no clue what my birth history is. “So by saying c section mothers are warriors does that mean since I had a vaginal birth I’m not a warrior?” Yes, this really did happen. People assume if you are giving another person accolades that you are putting someone else down. Since when did saying something was awesome become the equivalent of saying that the opposite is not. Why can’t both things be awesome?
I’ve noticed then there is this anger towards certain groups like ICAN and VBAC.com for Cesarean Awareness Month AKA “CAM”. It seems like some women feel that because these groups are trying to bring attention to the skyrocketing cesarean rates in America that they are also putting down the women who have had cesareans. Being one of these women I can assure you from the depths of my absolute inner most being that this is not the case.
I think it’s safe to say
that I speak for everyone here when I say, “Momma, you rock! No matter how you gave birth, you rock. Whether you had a cesarean, natural birth, or an epidural, or not. Birthed on your back, or squatting, a VBAC or an HBAC or whatever! That baby came out of you, and YOU ROCK!
It does not rock to be pressured into a medically unnecessary C-section because your doctor has a golf game on Sunday. Maybe he is a hungry wolf with a scalpel in his paw and dollar signs in his eyes. Those of us that have been through that honestly just want better. Better for our friends, daughters, and our daughter’s daughters.